A woman has revealed how her bridezilla friend replaced her as a bridesmaid – because she couldn’t afford to attend the bachelorette party in Las Vegas.
Taking to Reddit, the woman – who is believed to be from the US – explained that the bride originally understood when her friend shared her financial worries.
However, she eventually decided to demote her from her bridesmaid’s role for ‘not showing up for her’.
The fuming woman says she still has to fork out a minimum of $3,000 to go to the wedding.
Reddit users commented on the thread, with some saying the poster should refuse to go to the wedding, calling the bride ‘trash’.
The post read: ‘I said no to attending a bachelorette party, now I’m out of the wedding.
‘I told the bride I couldn’t afford the Vegas trip. I’ve been upfront about my financial situation for months.
‘She said it was fine, that she understood. Then I got a text saying I’ve been replaced as a bridesmaid because I’m «not showing up for her».
A woman, believed to be from the US, revealed on Reddit that her friend replaced her as a bridesmaid because she couldn’t afford to attend her bachelorette party in Vegas (stock image)
‘So showing up to her wedding isn’t enough? I didn’t know friendship was measured in flight points and bottle service.
‘I am sorry that I am too broke to spend 3K on your wedding :(‘
Some people who commented said the woman should RSVP to the wedding but not show up, however, others said she should decline the invitation.
One person said: ‘I’m spiteful so I would RSVP yes and then not show up. They’ll have to budget it into the wedding when it comes to catering.’
Another added: ‘Decline the wedding invite, she only cares about what people can do FOR her. She’s not your friend.’
Someone else added: ‘RSVP no to the wedding. Take the money you would have spent on her gift and treat yourself to a nice dinner or massage.’
Others called the bride ‘trash’ and claimed the friendship was more than likely over after she showed her true colours.
One person said: ‘The trash took itself out. You are fine OP. Also take this chance to look at your friendships. Who is your ride or die? It certainly wasn’t the bride.’
Another added: ‘At the risk of sounding cliché, it’s always nice when the trash takes itself out.’
Someone else said: ‘She’s not your friend op. If a person tells you who they are, believe them. You no longer need to waste time cultivating a relationship. Spend that time on taking care of you.’
A fourth added: ‘Trash took itself out. Consider her kicking you out your present from her.’
Another said: ‘Remember, sometimes the trash takes itself out!! Congratulations! Invest in yourself and not someone else!!’
It comes after a woman was slammed for wanting to lie to her best friend about why she can’t attend her destination wedding.
The 32-year-old said she is set to be a bridesmaid at her best friend’s overseas wedding in four months but would have to fork out a minimum of $8,000 to go, which would use up all of her savings.
To avoid paying the ‘insane’ amount of money, she is considering lying to the bride by telling her she can’t attend because has to spend her savings on a major home repair when in reality she’s using the money to go on a holiday with her husband.
People agreed $8,000 was an ‘outlandish’ price to pay but called out the bridesmaid for her dishonesty.
The bride in that case is throwing a seven-day affair for her wedding in a ‘tiny’ town in far-north Scandinavia where her fiancé is from.
She had to push the date forward by a year due to family pressure, giving guests just four months to plan the trip.
‘Between flights, the hotel, the rental car, the bridesmaid dress, the full traditional outfit required to be worn for some of the events, pet boarding, as well as general incidentals and we are looking at a minimum $8,000,’ the woman said in her Reddit post.
She added that almost all the town’s accommodation has been booked up for Midsommar, with spots left costing upwards of $300 a night. In addition, all of the groom’s family’s spare rooms have been claimed.
The bridesmaid said the bride, Kayla, was ‘very apologetic’ about changing the date but didn’t acknowledge the ‘huge impact’ it would have on her guests.
For the last four years, the poster and her husband have been saving for a three-week tour of Japan to celebrate their tenth anniversary and she had booked flights for the trip just before Kayla announced the date change.
‘Kayla didn’t know I had just booked flights and when she broke the news she actually said «You’re so lucky, you’ve been saving all that money for a vacation anyway!»,’ she said.
The woman feels guilty for prioritising her anniversary trip over her wedding as Kayla forked out thousands for her nuptials years ago.
‘My husband and I got married in Alaska right out of college when most of our friends, including Kayla, didn’t have particularly good or secure jobs,’ she said.
‘We know now this wasn’t exactly fair of us but we split the rental of a big house with all our friends and flights to Alaska aren’t anywhere near the $2k each it would cost us to fly to Kayla’s wedding.’
She said she’s ‘scared’ to tell Kayla the real reason why she and her husband won’t be going to her wedding as she thinks it will ruin their friendship.
‘I could see why it would. She was a bridesmaid for me while far less financially secure than we are now and she knows we have a lot of money saved for travel,’ she said.
‘I fear she would question if our friendship is not worth cancelling our Japan plans and flights. Our friendship means a lot to me but I don’t think it’s fair to plan a wedding this expensive to attend and expect me to cancel our dream trip to accommodate it.’
The bridesmaid she said wants to lie about having to do a ‘major home repair’ that will cost all of what she and her husband have saved plus some more to get out of going to the wedding.
‘Then when it did come time for the Asia trip say we were gifted the trip by my husband’s parents,’ she said.
‘I know that there is a risk she would find out the truth and be even angrier, is that risk worth it to avoid telling her the truth?’
Users were torn by the bridesmaid’s dilemma saying while $8,000 was an ‘unreasonable’ amount to pay, she shouldn’t be dishonest.
‘$8K is an outlandish amount to ask anyone to pay to come to a wedding. Ever. Full stop. The answer is, «We just can’t afford that. We booked our Japan vacation already, not knowing that you were going to change the date, and we can’t do this»,’ one said.
‘Your actual reason is sufficient. Making something up would just make it dodgy. Tell her the truth.’
‘You’re not an a****** for not wanting to spend $8K to go to a wedding. But you are the a****** for trying to come up with a complicated lie. Just be honest and talk to your friend,’ a second agreed.
‘Grow up and bite the bullet,’ someone else added.
