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4. Check the grammar and tone of your profile
Take your time with your profile and make sure it’s written as well as possible without typos and glaring grammatical errors. It’s also advisable to stay away from slang and text speak where possible, and to make your language clear.
Balboni says that you should also think about the tone. “Be aware – tone can be misinterpreted online. So, when including jokes in your profile, avoid too much sarcasm, self-deprecating humour, and politically heated jokes,” she says. “These may be taken the wrong way, especially by someone who doesn’t know you”.
5. Talk about your interests
Sharing your interests is a great way of attracting a like-minded person. Maybe you’re really into sports and fitness, or love nothing better than being out in nature. Perhaps your family is a major part of your life, and you’d like a potential love interest to have similar values. This is also a good opportunity to mention anything else relevant such as your religion or core values. This will give an authentic sense of who you are and what’s important to you.
6. Look at other dating profiles for inspiration
If you’re struggling to get started, look at other online dating profile examples for inspiration. Take note of who stands out and why. Is it the warm language they use, or the perfect balance of personal information and great photos? Likewise, what statements or details sound alarm bells? Seeing other profiles in this way will help to strengthen your own.
7. Be bold about sharing your dreams and aspirations
Sharing your dreams is a great way of attracting a like-minded partner. “Name what you want – if you’re looking for love and want to spend a lifetime with someone, mention it,” says Balboni. “Don’t be afraid of putting someone off by naming what you want. This shows that you are emotionally available and ready for those who want what you want”.
Example
For instance, a current Telegraph Dating profile states, “I’ve had an intense career and now looking for someone to indulge my creative side with. That silver tuna, a passionate partnership where we both enhance each other’s lives”. In just three sentences, this person makes it clear that they have previously been career-driven but are now at a time of their life where they want to focus on the more creative and romantic things.
8. Find the right dating site
The dating app you decide to sign up to is important as it can help lead you to a like- minded person. Before you make a decision, do your research and look into the general demographic of the dating site you’re interested in.
Browsing a site can give you an idea of details such as the average age of its members, their views on the world, and the type of relationship they are looking for. Some dating sites cater for more casual relationships while others focus on creating long-term partnerships.
Telegraph Dating, for instance, caters specifically for mature men and women looking for romance. In fact, The Telegraph is home to one of the best-known mature dating communities, with a long history of match-making its single readers. Some of the team behind the service have been a part of it for over 25 years, so they are well versed in helping others find love.
9. Finding compatibility
When you first join a new dating site you may feel nervous about how fellow members respond to your profile. If the interest you receive isn’t as high as you’d like initially, remember that it’s quality that matters over quantity.
Remember, you’re looking for compatibility not popularity, so the overall numbers of likes and swipes don’t really matter in the long run. The key thing is that your profile truly represents who you are and what you’re looking for.
10. Be honest
Don’t be tempted to upload a decade-old photo to your profile, or exaggerate details such as your height or career achievements. It’s always better to be honest. If you do find someone that you’re compatible with and want to meet in person, these details will quickly come to light and could make you seem dishonest.
So, whether you have children, an obsession with gaming, or you simply travel frequently for work, mention it. Being honest about your life is the best way of finding true compatibility.
11. Consider your dating profile headlines
When a potential match clicks on your profile, they will see what’s referred to as your ‘dating profile headline’. These opening lines are used to grab another member’s attention and give a brief overview of who you are and what you’re looking for in a match. Go back to your strengths and make sure that this opening line is as strong as it can be.
Examples
- ‘Fun lively musician seeks brains and humour’
- ‘Keen traveller looking to find a like-minded companion’
12. Be clear about your deal breakers
You may have some criteria that are non-negotiable when it comes to a potential partner. Perhaps you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone who has been married before, or lives more than 50 miles away.
If you can’t see yourself with a smoker or a dog-hater, mention this, but try not to focus on anything too personal such as a potential partner’s appearance or salary.
13. Keep your profile up to date
If you’ve been dating for a while, make sure you update your profile every few months. You can add recent photos of yourself, include new hobbies you may have started, or make tweaks here and there to make your profile shine. Think of it like a professional CV or Linkedin page that needs updating every few months to represent yourself in the best way possible.
If you’re single and interested in meeting local men and women, join Telegraph Dating. With more than 220,000 single people on the site, Telegraph Dating is the best place to find romance.
